The Bombshell Factor™

Hello Bombshell!

I hope your world has been full of joy and the magnificence of the season!

My post is going to offend some people.  While it is never my intent to do so, I am compelled to write about something that deeply disturbs me and will accept the fallout without apology. 

WHAT IS WITH THE ELECTRONICS AT THE TABLE?? I  have noticed lately that texting/twittering at the table is almost an obsession.  What’s up with that?  An even bigger question is WHY??  Why is there such a frenzy to deliver earth-shattering news from a dining table??

Bombshells, if you are guilty of this, STOP.  STOP NOW.  Part of being a Bombshell is being present in the moment and enjoying the company you keep, even if that company is only YOU at the moment. 

 I have been asking around to see if someone could give me a great answer, a definitive answer, about why texting and twittering at the table has become so commonplace.  I wanted to get some kind of answer that was so thought-provoking, so perfect, that I could drop this subject.  The answers stunned me to the point that I could no longer remain silent.  One said they thought it was cool to tell friends what was happening while they were away.  Okay…this came from a grown-up, not a 12 year old.  I’m serious.  So instead of being present and engaging 100% with present company you are communicating with someone that didn’t want to couldn’t be there at the expense of an in-person connection?  And the point is…?

Another answer was that  ”this is my job so I really have to tweet many times through out the day!”  Uh, okay.  My job is to teach women how to be fabulous in their own skin and love who they are…but I don’t make a practice of stopping a delicious meal to go apply lipstick to another guest in the restaurant because she happened to show up in sweats and no makeup!  And I haven’t seen a physician stop his rare moment of relaxation to go table to table and make food recommendations that are heart-healthy.  And it’s been quite a while since I saw an etiquette consultant stop her meal and give lessons about which fork gets used first.  Have you ever seen a speaker get up and make a speech in the middle of a meal just because well, that’s her job?? 

I could go on and on, but my point is this.  There is a LASTING LEGACY that you are leaving in this world…an imprint of who you are…so when you are out with family/friends and you are checking email or tweeting about what a great restaurant you’re at (which is a great idea by the way–and guess what? It can be tweeted AFTER you eat!)  you are sending a very strong message to the world about what you value.  And you are sending an even stronger message to your loved ones about what you value!!  Is this the legacy you want to leave in the world?  That you chose to connect electronically more than you connected in person?  Is that REALLY what you want written on your tombstone? 

A question for my single Bombshells (and friends of Bombshells of course!)…do you want to put out the vibe that you are unavailable?  If you are sitting alone enjoying a coffee and are staring at your electronics then I assure you Mr. Wonderful has little to no interest in approaching you.  He will be more apt to approach the Bombshell that has a secret grin on her face as she people watches!  On another note, if you are a guy reading my blog (thank you very much!!) and you are guilty as charged, the Bombshell across the table has a line of suitors willing and ready to show her FULL attention!!  Is it worth losing an amazing woman? 

Studies are showing that just because someone has 2000 friends on twitter and a huge fanbase on Facebook, it doesn’t mean that they have a ton of friends that they actually spend time with….and sometimes the opposite is true-that they have many online friends and NO offline friends.  Is that you?

Bombshells….there is an amazing, wonderful life out there!!  Don’t miss out on one drop because you are too busy texting!   Just try it.  Engage fully at your next meal.  Your loved ones will thank you.

All the very best to you my darlings~XOXO Gigi Belmonico