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What are YOU Tolerating?
Author: Gigi03.25.2010
Hello Bombshell!
I hope you are enjoying the beauty of the changing seasons… I know I am!
So, my question for you today is this…what are you tolerating? I’m not talking about the tolerance issue of dealing with people that don’t think like you do–that’s an entirely differect subject for a different day (or not!). I’m talking about what you are tolerating in your life on a day to day basis that is taking away from your Bombshell fabulosity.
Some questions to ponder…
Are you tolerating clutter in your closet? Are your clothes packed so tightly in there that you have nothing to wear? As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, get rid of something! Even better, get rid of a lot! If that seems overwhelming right now, the next time you choose something to wear, decide to choose something to release at that same time. If you can’t get to it at that moment, hang it at one end of your closet. In a week, you’ll have 7 things hanging together that you can release! Give them to a friend, a woman’s shelter, or donate to Goodwill or Salvation Army. (You’ll hear me say a thousand times, do not throw clothes away–even tattered, awful things can be donated to Goodwill or Salvation Army to be recycled–just mention “recycle” on the box.)
Are you tolerating not feeling good about who you are in the world? A lot of women, Bombshells included, feel yucky about themselves from time to time. Sometimes it has to do with weight (we’re going to deal with that in my next post) and other times it is something to do with how you are showing up in the world. Do you catch yourself saying something and then immediately wishing you hadn’t? Oh yes my darlings, I’ve been there and done that more times than I care to count. A couple of ways to handle this… I’ve done both, and they both work. First thing is to apologize as soon as it comes out of your mouth. I am not talking about the “I apologize” non-authentic way to say you screwed up. I am talking about the “I’m sorry. I messed up and I am sorry I hurt your feelings, (or wrecked the car because you were texting, or whatever you did that was not Bombshell). When you make eye contact and have genuine remorse for hurting someone and you fix it, lots of amazing things happen in the world! A note here Bombshells–one thing I’ve seen in many younger women is that they go around saying “I’m sorry” for EVERYTHING. They didn’t learn that needing to walk by someone or needing to push your cart or basically move past someone does NOT require an “I’m sorry” but rather an “excuse me.” NO MORE saying “I’m sorry” when an “excuse me” will do. When you go around apologizing and “I’m sorrying” at inappropriate times like that, you lower your Bombshell factor immensely. No more of that! Another way to stop before you put your fabulous shoe-d foot in your mouth is the old fashioned, tried and true counting method. Before you say something to someone that is irritating you, COUNT. Just to 3…that gives your brain time to slow down and decipher if it is worth having to back peddle. This one works particularly well on people you love.
Okay, Bombshell…you tell me. What are you tolerating and how are you going to change that starting today? XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 26th, 2010 at 8:05 pm
As usual, 100% agree. I know I always feel better..”doing the right thing”, doing something no matter how big or how small for someone else builds up my world. It helps me stop and think about others…rather than moving through my day to day (as I have been) to LIVING graciously, the Bombshell way as God has intented. Once again my fabulous Gigi…Thank you for helping me to STOP and think and to live a beautiful, Bombshell Life! Make it a Fabulous Day!
March 26th, 2010 at 8:12 pm
Thank you for your great post Jennifer, you Bombshell you!! Yes…we ALWAYS feel better when we do the right thing. And living graciously is the best way to attract more beautiful things to our world, don’t you think? You are SO welcome Bombshell~thank YOU. XOXOGigi
March 26th, 2010 at 8:40 pm
I agree! Totally Agree
I love fresh starts, and letting go of tired old things and behaviors! Once you get into the habit of not tolerating the things (material and mental) about you that weigh you down… you begin to CRAVE this little bit of cleansing! It’s so good for your mind, body, and spirit! You are always so right on Gigi! And you have such a positive voice!
March 26th, 2010 at 8:53 pm
Wow! Your blog on “Tolerating” hit me so hard. For years, I felt I had to give up “Me” in order to take care of family, friends, and my students. I felt I always had to place my own needs and wants second. Guess What? I’m not tolerating making “Me” suffer so much. That is why I hired my personal trainer (3X’s a week)and haven’t felt this good in years! Besides he is 20 years my junior and good looking. He keeps me motivated! Thanks Gigi! Look forward to your future postings!
March 26th, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Hi Gigi!!
Not tolerating a lot these days! A lot of extra weight I had been carrying around on me that is lost….gone forever!! YAY!
Can’t wait to see your next post on that!!
So I suppose I could get in that closet and get rid of quite a few things now. Especially the FAT clothes!! NOT BOMBSHELL!!
Now I can really wear clothes for the bombshell me!
Take care! and God bless!
Lisa~
March 26th, 2010 at 10:49 pm
Fixing “tolerances” is so important! Thank you for shedding your light on this subject — AND, for the bit about appologizing when no appology is necessary. “NO MORE saying “I’m sorry” when an “excuse me” will do.” I am SOOO with you on that one. It hurts my heart to see people (usually women) appologize basically for just living.
March 27th, 2010 at 8:33 am
Way to go Bombshell!! I am proud of you for taking control of your extra weight! Yes, it is time to get rid of the clothes that will never be on your body again~that will feel REALLY good to do that! Thank you for your comments here Lisa…I look forward to hearing more about the closet purge and how great that feels! CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 27th, 2010 at 8:35 am
Thank you Marianne, you Bombshell you!! A fresh start is a VERY good thing!! Getting into the place where non-tolerating is the order of the day makes life SO much easier~I wish I’d learned about this a long time ago!! A wise man said “You can’t complain about what you tolerate.” I love that don’t you? Thank you for your comments and your lovely compliments to me Bombshell!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 27th, 2010 at 8:36 am
Rhonda~you Bombshell you!! What a GREAT example of moving past “tolerating” into action!! Doesn’t it feel great to take care of YOU?! No one is lifted up when we make ourselves “small”…as a matter of fact, when we bring the best of ourselves to the table, it allows others to step up their game too! What an awesome way to get in shape…with a very cute guy by your side! Thank you for your comments, and keep up your Bombshell fabulosity!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 27th, 2010 at 8:39 am
Thank you Bombshell! YES…we must continue teaching our young women to stop apologizing when an “excuse me” will do!! It is rampant in our culture…and it definitely takes away from one’s Bombshell fabulosity!! Katherine, thank you for your comments~I appreciate you SO much Bombshell!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 27th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
Gigi – Your words resonate with so many women! We all tend to feel not ‘worthy’ enough for many reasons in our life. You have just illustrated that despite the oops! in our lives, we can choose to be better women and KNOW that we are enough and truly worthwhile. Thank you for your eloquent and wise words.
March 27th, 2010 at 5:22 pm
Thank YOU Bombshell! I appreciate your comments here…especially the word CHOOSE…we must remember that everything we do everyday is a CHOICE. Thank goodness we can change things anytime we’re willing and truly ready. I appreciate you writing Lori…you are the best! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
March 29th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Gigi,
This resonated with me on so many levels. Particularly, I feel like I’ve been tolerating behavior/words from men that I’ve gone on dates with. Inside I feel, “Wow, that feels disrespectful or I would really appreciate x, y. z” but the silence is what eats at our Bombshell self-esteem. So, I’m committed to say, “This is what I need.” (after I count to 3 to formulate a graceful yet authentic replay.) thank you for all you do. xoxo, Diana Dorell
March 30th, 2010 at 8:01 am
Thank you Bombshell!! You are so right on…it is the silence that erodes our self-esteem. What a Bombshell you are to make the decision to tell people who you are and what you require and desire!! Thank you for your comments lovely Diana!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
May 5th, 2010 at 10:40 am
Gigi,
I think you were talking directly to me on the “Excuse Me…instead of I’m sorry” point.
Ok…maybe not me but point taken–I am that young girl who constantly does that.
Thanks for the advice!
Love ya lots!
Lindsay
May 5th, 2010 at 4:16 pm
Hi Bombshell! Lindsay we are all learning and growing everyday…I was once that girl too my darling! It will take a little practice but I promise it gets easier with practice! You are so welcome my dear! Love you too Bombshell! XOXO Gigi Belmonico