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Comment on On Being a Bombshell… by Gigi

Gigi — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 12:44:26 +0000

Felicia thank you SO much Bombshell!! What a beautiful thing to say!! I am beyond thrilled that you are here and enjoying my posts…more to come my dear, more to come!! Please share my blog with your fellow Bombshells…all are welcome here!!XOXOGigi

Comment on On Being a Bombshell… by Felicia White

Felicia White — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 02:11:39 +0000

Hi Gigi! This is my first time really soaking in your blog and I have to say I’m overwhelmed with joy! I find a lot of value in reading your posts and really enjoy your fun spirit! Thanks for sharing such wonderful tips on being the best Bombshell you can be!

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Gigi

Gigi — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 14:10:41 +0000

Debbie thank you Bombshell!! Hope it gave you some insight my dear… when we know better we do better!!XOXOGigi

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Gigi

Gigi — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 14:08:14 +0000

Marianne thank you so much for your input Bombshell!! I love what you said about our Bombshell needing to learn that her happiness is up to her!! Many women that have been emotionally abused in this way are not necessarily looking at their spouse to make them happy… they are actually thinking that they are the ones that are crazy because the guy is one way one minute and different the next. They do not yet realize that this craziness is not normal because it has been their version of normal, so we start there. As she starts to see the patterns as “facts” then it is much easier for her to step away from “feelings” and see what is actually happening. Unfortunately for guys like “Paul”, when the Bombshell does start to move away from him toward the things that bring her joy, the behavior escalates and can become dangerous….so our “Pattie” must be very careful in planning her exit, for her safety and that of her children. If he doesn’t get help it will NOT go away on its own. So in the meantime I give Pattie some tools in her Bombshell toolbox that will help ease the stress of the Dr.Jekyl/Mr. Hyde, walking on eggshells existence…and moving toward joy is SO SO SO important. Thank you again Bombshell for your comments and insight my dear!!XOXOGigi

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Marianne

Marianne — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 13:32:48 +0000

What I have learned in dealing with people is that if YOU want to be happy, you MUST MUST MUST focus on doing what makes you happy. If you focus on trying to shape people and circumstances to fit your idea of happiness, you will find it’s an exercise in futility. When you take focus off of yourself, and put it on others, you suffer.
It may seem uncomfortable to put this in to practice, it may seem selfish and self centered at first… But once you see the results of focusing on only YOU, you’ll totally ‘get it’.

When you start to live your life and do what makes you happy and proud, the people that belong in your life easily remain, and the ones that don’t belong seem to filter out on their own.

If this guy, Paul, is giving her that much anxiety and stress, then Pattie is spending too much time on what HE is doing. Not enough time on what SHE needs. Try coming and going while answering to one person only. Try looking in the mirror (when you feel like you need him to compliment you) and say out loud “My Gosh! I look good!”. If you want to go to a party, GO. Who says you need him to come with you to make your night enjoyable??? Do you really want to depend on someone else for your happiness? – surely not!

Pretty soon, the passive aggressive MANIPULATION will cease to work. he will either find someone else to manipulate, or realize that tagging along with you is so easy and peaceful and fun and stick around because he enjoys being there. And by this time…. You’ll not care either way, because you don’t need someone to complete your idea of happiness.

Sorry for the rambling!

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Debbie White

Debbie White — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:23:55 +0000

O.M.G. Thanks for this Gigi. Well-written and a true representation of this. Crazytown is a great word for it too. Debbie L. White

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Gigi

Gigi — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 18:51:32 +0000

Katherine THANK YOU Bombshell….well said my dear!! BOTH parties need to be ready to heal indeed…otherwise the exact situation shows up dressed in a different package! Let’s heed our “inner knowing” when it shows up so that we can live amazing Bombshell lives!! We are here to grow and change ourselves and no one else. Thank you for your comments Bombshell!!XOXOGigi

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Katherine C.H.E.

Katherine C.H.E. — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 02:53:19 +0000

You raise some good points that factor into ALL relationships — it is NEVER about fixing the other person. You either love the package or you do not. You either get what you want out of the relationship or you do not. There are real healing opportunities for both parties when things go awry, but to get the most out of the healing, BOTH parties need to be ready to heal.

Thank you for starting such an important conversation, My Bombshell!! XOXO, Katherine.

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Gigi

Gigi — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 21:47:24 +0000

Callie thank you for your honesty Bombshell…this is not an easy topic for sure!! Sometimes just saying it out loud takes the power out of it and I hope you are feeling that peace right this minute my dear. It is not uncommon for people that have this to deny it…please let me know if I can be of help to you about how to approach the topic. Thank you again Bombshell!!XOXOGigi

Comment on Welcome to Crazytown Bombshells!! by Callie Ramsey

Callie Ramsey — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 21:37:34 +0000

GiGi you have described my life for the past 13 years. I am going to print this off and show him why I keep saying I feel like I am going crazy. Keep the bombshell posts coming. God bless you GiGi.