Well hello Bombshell!! Happy New Year!!
I don’t call them resolutions. I can hardly call them goals. I am a rebellious thing and I don’t clamor to fit into a mold or a box. So when I thought about who I wanted to be in 2012 I coined it “My 2012 Bombshell Fabulosities”!! Enjoy enjoy my darlings, and please feel free to comment and share your OWN fabulosities of the New Year!
1. I am only bringing my very best to my table. Goes especially for food~ even when I am enjoying Mexican or Italian food with my family and my Bombshells, no more eating like it is my last meal on Earth. If it truly IS my last meal, do I want to go down with five chips in my mouth? Nope. I want to go down savoring savoring savoring my darlings. Makes my mouth water just thinking about it!
2. In the spirit of bringing my very best to my table, I am going to be open with you and tell you as much as I think about you, I am at a place where I can’t write here as much as I’d like! I’ve been writing several books at once for quite some time, and I have been a bit non-Bombshell here on my blog. Forgive me my darlings!!
3. I am reallllllly going to put out a newsletter. I have several hundred subscribers that want more Bombshell in their mailbox and I am just the girl to do it!! They won’t be long and they won’t be an overload to you my dears, I promise you that. But I want to connect on a heart level with my Bombshells there as well and help you be the Bombshell that you are called to be. And it’s time. There’s that bringing my very best to my table again. (If you want some in YOUR mailbox join us!! Info right here under my picture!)
4. I bless and release people that are not here for my highest good. The world does NOT revolve around me and I know that (and do we really want that? No thank you for me!!) But as I am becoming my best me I realize that not everyone is ready for that, not in me and particularly not in themselves. It’s all good…we are on different paths and my path right now is to surround myself with encouraging, uplifting, sincere and trustworthy Bombshells that I SO believe in and here’s the clincher…that also believe in ME. I am SO excited about that!!
5. I am stepping up my YES. You may have caught my blog post about being a “YES!” girl…if not, it is a great read Bombshell!! Here it I my dear~ http://gigibelmonico.com/?p=167 I am feeling called to serve in big ways and I am excited to share more of that with you this year!!
6. I did it. Yes, this VERY non-techie girl now has an iPhone AND an iPad. Not going to be glued to them (and NEVER at the table my darlings!!) but it is awesome to be connected whenever I want to be!
Bombshell thank you for your generosity of spirit to read my words…what a gift that is and what a gift you are to me!!
Feel free to share YOUR 2012 Fabulosities with me and the rest of our Bombshell Posse™!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico

Hello Bombshells!!
I love Fall!! The leaves are changing~ I so enjoy the changing of the seasons especially this year.
Let’s get right to it my darlings…do you feel like you are crazy sometimes? Does it seem like you are in an amazing relationship one minute and Psychoville the next? Do you ever feel jealous of your fellow Bombshells because you think their relationship just seems so much more “normal” than yours? Well, sit down, breathe a few cleansing breaths, and let’s talk. I have a couple of people that I would like for you to meet.
Meet Pattie. She is an amazing Bombshell with a heart full of love. She works as an interior designer and is basically a very happy Bombshell. She is crazy about a guy that she met years ago. He (let’s call him Paul) swept her off her feet with his words of love and adoration and she fell for him in a big way. He often mentioned marriage, and she knew at some point she would love to settle down and have a family. His quiet demeanor and great qualities drew her in and she loved spending time with him. Until it went south…until she felt like she was crazy sometimes. But now she was in love and in deep. Let’s see if you and Pattie have any of these things in common and we’ll see if we can get this figured out.
1. Although they can have a great time together, Paul sometimes seems aloof with Pattie. Simple questions like “how was your day?” are met with vague non-answers. She has no idea why. He was just on the phone laughing with his brother and now seems so distant.
2. Paul doesn’t often tell Pattie that she is beautiful. (She is.) He is certain to be Mr. Charming at work however, and the gals at the office think he is always so attentive. “Lucky Pattie!” they say!!
3. It is sometimes quite obvious that Paul is checking his email while on the phone with her. When she says she is ready to hang up and go do something fun, Paul wants to stay on the phone and is irritated that Pattie doesn’t want to be on the phone with him.
4. If given the choice between doing something that would make Pattie feel loved or having his co-workers think he is Mr. Wonderful, he goes with the latter most every time. It is very important for Paul to have the admiration of the women in his office, even though he is physically faithful.
5. When Pattie gets frustrated with Paul because she feels like something is “off kilter” and she voices a feeling about that, instead of opening up and working through the issue, Paul immediately shuts down and pouts. For days. But when the phone rings and the neighbor needs help with moving a piece of furniture, Paul hurries over with a great big grin on his face as if nothing ever happened. “Paul is so amazing!!” say his neighbors.
6. When Pattie wants to connect on a physical level, especially after a day or night of connection, Paul falls asleep and leaves Pattie longing for intimacy. She has no recollection of anything from the day that should have triggered anger at her…as a matter of fact he even mentioned earlier in the day how he was looking forward to being alone with her.
7. Pattie told Paul about an upcoming housewarming party for Saturday night. When Saturday morning rolled around, Paul loaded up his fishing gear for a weekend with the boys. When Pattie reminded him about the party, he hugged her and kissed her and charmingly told her that he forgot. When she got frustrated and told him it was important to her, he pouted and drove off to to the lake. When he got there, he told his buddies how Pattie never lets him have any fun. “Poor Paul!!” say his buddies.
8. When Pattie gets to her wits end and says this isn’t working for her, Paul cries and begs for forgiveness and says he’ll change. And then he goes back to the newspaper.
9. Paul deeply loves Pattie, but when they start feeling close and it looks like it just might work after all, he shuts down. And then when Pattie has to go on an out of town business trip for a night, he calls a married girl-friend from his prior job. Although Paul feels nothing romantically for her, he makes sure she feels special…after all, Paul IS Mr. Nice Guy. Paul accidentally mentions to Pattie that he spoke to the old friend…he prefers to keep his women friendships a secret because it helps him feel in control of his destiny. When he sees the light leave Pattie’s eyes, he feels weird that he just spent time entertaining someone that in actuality means so little to him and is way below Pattie in looks and intelligence while the girl he loves longs for his connection. So he drinks a 6-pack a little earlier that night to keep the hunger and longings of his soul at bay.

Whew. Deep breath here my darlings. Do you see some of this chaos in your relationship? There is a name for this, and it isn’t crazy, and YOU aren’t crazy. It is called passive aggressive disorder. Many of us have heard that term but didn’t know what it was. Now you do. The next question is this: what can you do about it?
Nothing. Really.Nothing. It isn’t yours to fix dear Bombshell, it’s his. You can tell him that it hurts you deeply and ask him to please get some counseling for it, or you can stand idly by and accept that the truest longings of your heart will never be fulfilled with this man. Hopefully your Paul will have the courage to get help with this so that you can have an amazing relationship that you and he BOTH long to have. If not, remove your rose colored glasses and please consider what your future with him looks like. This condition does not go away on its own…and even worse, is very easily passed on from generation to generation. If he does not get healing, you and your children’s emotional health is at stake. And mark my words dear Bombshell…as he gets older the stuffed, unexpressed anger that leads him to shut down gets more intense and your pain and loneliness even greater. If it is evident that he is not willing to change then consider what it would take to get your own life back to Bombshell…even if that means blessing him and leaving to start a new life without the drama. So my dear Bombshell, welcome to Crazytown!! Is this REALLY where you want to live? XOXO Gigi Belmonico
p.s.If you have endured this or know someone that has, please write! I want to hear your story. If it is private and you want to share with me, write to me at gigi@gigibelmonico.com and I will keep your confidences…you have my Bombshell word. If you want to share publicly, please do…just hit comment! Bombshells, we are here for each other. Bombshells stick together!! XOXO Gigi

Hello Bombshells and WELCOME!! We are thrilled to have you~
I am revisiting my very first blog post~ enjoy!!

When you think of the word “Bombshell” what image comes to mind? Is she an overly bleached blonde with a ton of cleavage and wearing a too-tight and too-short skirt? Think about a woman that is beautiful to look at from afar but when you get closer you notice something. She is making demands, being unfriendly, cursing, and using poor manners. When you get close to her you realize her energy is actually quite draining and her beauty is overshadowed by her lack of…lack of everything BUT beauty. Somehow her beauty diminishes before your very eyes. When she leaves the room, you are disappointed that such beauty is wasted on someone so unappealing.

Now picture this: An attractive woman enters the room, dressed in clothing that accentuates her shape without being immodest or over the top. All eyes are on her. Instead of being rude, she is genuinely friendly and gracious to all she comes in contact with. Her warmth and generosity of spirit melts even the most cynical onlooker. She looks at you and is not only interested in what you are saying, you feel like you are the most important person in the room…because to her, you ARE. Her outer beauty is only magnified by the energy and inner joy she exudes. When she leaves the room, all you can think of is WOW.

Which one is the Bombshell? And which one are YOU?

Well, my darlings, THAT is the question you must answer for yourself. Are you going to continue doing what you’re doing, accepting the fact that “You’re just not Bombshell material”? Or are you ready to embrace your God-given feminine power and inner AND outer beauty? To not only attract what your heart desires but be a blessing to those you come in contact with on a daily basis? If you are READY TO BE A BOMBSHELL, read on. And if you’re not, that’s okay too. We will welcome you back with open arms when you’re ready….Bombshells are friendly that way!

Bombshell Wisdom for today: As you read, being a Bombshell is not just about beauty. Beauty is a component of being a Bombshell, and perhaps the easiest to attain. Yes, there are women that are naturally drop-dead gorgeous. But beyond the age of 30 the pool of women that are absolutely stunning without a little help from the cosmetics counter, Image consultant, and tailor are very very few. EVERY woman benefits from doing things that enhance her beauty….and face it, we ALL feel better when we put our best foot forward aesthetically. So if the “beauty” part of being a Bombshell is one of the easiest to do, and you haven’t been doing all you can in that area, ask yourself why. Is it because you’ve been duped into thinking that all good-looking women are born that way and it doesn’t take effort? Or have you believed that it might take too MUCH effort and you don’t have time nor inclination to spend two hours putting your face on in the morning? Truth is, every woman that turns heads IS wearing makeup (for better or worse!) and with a little practice, it takes about 10-12 minutes to apply makeup that will help you feel confident about how you look. Now another important question: Are YOU worth spending time on? I believe you are. And if you are ready to embrace YOU and ready to be a Bombshell, stay tuned. Your life will never be the same. XOXO Gigi Belmonico

Bombshells….my darlings….the women I love SO much…let’s talk.
So I am in Macy’s last week trying on some VERY fabulous summer dresses~ (run, don’t walk to your nearest store~ so many of the dresses are perfect for YOUR body type this year!!) Fashion is for another day dear Bombshell….I want and NEED to be serious for today.
I am condensing the story so that I don’t write an entire book for a blog post (but I am highly considering writing a book about this very topic!!) So back to Macy’s…I am in the dressing room and hear two people walk in to the otherwise empty dressing rooms. One of them is saying to the other one “Well don’t you think this will make me look fat?!! I don’t think this will look good with my big butt!!” to which the reply was “No it won’t make you look fat.” I could tell the second voice was a younger voice, like perhaps the little sister of the first gal. The older one continues: “My body is shaped so weird, nothing looks good on it. I can’t believe I am supposed to wear this stuff with this fat stomach!!” Silence from the younger gal. Older gal as she continues trying on clothes: “Well I don’t know why you picked these clothes for me, they look awful. I should just forget trying to look nice.” Younger one: “What do you mean? You do look nice.” Older: “No I don’t. I am changing and we are getting out of here. This was a stupid idea!!” Silence. I felt so very very sad. From the conversation I could tell the younger one was a LITTLE girl and I guessed her to be about 7 or 8 from the sound of her sweet voice. I figured the older one was a sister or babysitter and I just felt so sorry for the littlest girl that had no words for this condemnation-fest. As I sat there I tried to figure out a nice way to tell the older sister to please stop talking about her body like that to this baby girl because I could tell it felt awful to her and confusing as well.
As I pray for the right words to say to stop this self-hating madness, I open my dressing room door. Standing in front of the 3-way mirror was a 30 year old woman AND HER VERY YOUNG DAUGHTER. YES. This conversation was between MOTHER AND DAUGHTER. I audibly gasped. The young woman said to me, “Are you alright?” I said yes…and then I asked “Is this your daughter?” and her reply was “yes.” I asked, “How old is she?” And the young Mother said “Seven.” It was all I could do not to cry right then and there. I looked around to see if John Quinones was coming around the corner with the cameras to say they were actors…but he wasn’t there. No acting here. I said to her, “I couldn’t help but overhear your conversation….please may I just say something?” She said, “Uh, okay.” My response: “You are your daughter’s hero and she looks up to you. She gets her self esteem about her body from what you think and say about YOUR body.” The Mother quickly discounted my comment and replied, “I always ask her about fashion and how I look. She has good taste!” I almost threw up. Not sure what memo this Mother got that told her that her 7 year old was in charge of providing any fashion service for her….a 7 year old should be concentrating on being seven, not heading up Mommy’s fan club so Mommy feels good about herself!! I bit my tongue because the little girl was standing there. What could I say to this young Mother that would get through to her? Before I could say another word the Mother said “I am trying not to take this the wrong way!!” And that was it. I said to her “You take me any way you need to take me to hear the seriousness of my plea to you!” She looked at me funny and I continued. “This is a very serious matter that you may not fully understand until she gets older. I am telling you that this is a burden much too heavy for a child to bear to listen to her hero talk about herself like that. I am asking you to think about it and please stop doing this to her and to yourself. It was heartbreaking to hear and I know it isn’t easy for her either. Food for thought my dear.” With that, the young Mother said “Thank you” and brushed past me very quickly. I could tell I hit a nerve with her.
Did I hit a nerve with YOU dear Bombshell? Are you unhealthily confiding your body insecurities with your daughters? Did your Mother unknowingly do that with you? EVERY woman has something about her body that doesn’t suit her. It doesn’t mean that you can’t love it anyway. Are you loving yourself enough so that your daughters learn to love themselves? THAT my darling, is the best Mother’s Day gift you could ever receive. XOXO Gigi Belmonico

Hello Bombshell!!
YAY!! It’s Spring. I LOVE Winter and yet am always ready to see the grass get green and the flowers bloom, aren’t you?
So I posed a question on our Bombshell page on Facebook about what it might feel like to stop running everything and doing everything and making sure the world was still spinning on its axis? Can you even begin to imagine what that might feel like dear Bombshell?
I am going to let you in on a little secret. I used to be that girl. You know the one. The girl that never said no to anything and did everything for everybody and washed clothes at 1 in the morning because well, that was the only time I had to do it. You know the one…the exhausted girl. The girl making sure everyone else was happy. The tired girl. The girl that would stay late so everyone else could go home. The girl with the dark circles carefully concealed with makeup because well, there was just one more thing that needed done before sleep. Even though I was completely dolled up and Bombshell on the outside, that girl was about as far away from being a REAL Bombshell as you could get. Are YOU that girl my darling? Are you making sure that God is doing His business all the while ignoring yourself and your needs? What about your family? Are you doing all the thinking, planning, and executing while everyone stands around waiting for orders from Mom? And the saddest experience of all…are you managing your love relationship, playing Mother to your lover while he gets to play little boy and barely show up? Yikes.
When we do everything for everybody it lessens our Bombshell Factor™ BIGTIME. I am talking in ways that you don’t always see right away….like raising a son that doesn’t know how to treat a woman with respect may not show up until his dating years when you learn he is abusive to his girlfriends. Or that when you decide to step down from a committee it folds because no one can do it “like you do”. And what about the situation we’ve all heard of when we coddle to our sweetheart and ignore our deepest longings to “keep the peace” only to find out he is having a love affair with the neighbor that is 40 pounds heavier and not near as fabulous as you are because she makes him feel like a real man? I cannot imagine that pain but know many women that have experienced that. Can you feel the energy drain from your body even as you read this? I can.
I am delighted to report that I haven’t been that girl in a really really long time. Although I love caring for my family, it seems like forever since I lost sleep overfunctioning for a family member or was anywhere near the laundry room late at night! I am peaceful, contented, excited, enthusiastic, successful, and HAPPY. And it feels WAYYYYY better than being tired my dear Bombshell. I can help you get there too!!
So where do you go from here? How do you get from being the “everything to everybody” girl to being a REAL Bombshell…a girl that exudes confidence, joy, and satisfaction in knowing her only job is really being the best she can be and nothing else? First of all BREATHE. Get some oxygen back into your body and see what that feels like. It feels great doesn’t it? Now let’s make a plan. I want you to list everything you do in a day. Everything. And when you are done doing that I want you to make a check mark on everything that you do for someone else that they could do for themselves and should be doing for themselves. …things like making your teenager’s haircut appointments, scheduling the vet appointment for your college daughter’s dog, etc. Do you see a pattern here? Now I want you to put a happy face by the things you do that bring you JOY and fill your tank….things like enjoying a good book….getting a manicure….a massage….lunch with girlfriends. How many happy faces do you see? Are you spending way more time doing for your family and paralyzing their growth than you are in self care? Let’s change that TODAY Bombshell. It is virtually impossible to care for your family at a deep level and not care for yourself without it taking a toll on your health and well being. I am serious here Bombshell. Make sure you make time EVERYDAY for self-care. You don’t have to go for a massage everyday. But how about making time to read or write or play? Yes. Everyday. THAT my darling, is an important step in being the best Bombshell you can be. Where are you going to start? I can’t wait to hear from you Bombshell!! XOXO Gigi Belmonico

Hello Bombshells and Happy New Year!!
Are YOU a “YES!!” girl?
My definition of a “YES!” girl might not be what you are thinking. I am not referring to the phenomenon of saying yes when you’d rather say no, saying yes when you don’t have time or inclination, or saying yes when you have no intention of following through. All those are very non-Bombshell yeses, and many women spend their entire lives caught up in that sad game. Let’s change that!
I would love to share the day that I became a forever “YES!!” girl. About 6 years ago a friend called me and asked me to help out at the soup kitchen where I live because they were very short-handed. My first response in my mind was “Absolutely not…I can’t cook, what if they are dirty and I have a little OCD about that, and I don’t like laziness so I probably would be tortured if I did that.” But there was also another voice inside of me…the one that is full of compassion and love for people and the human condition…the one that loves to know another’s “story” and the one that loves to encourage others…so I asked my girlfriend if I could do a trial run to see if it was a fit for me, and she agreed. That day my life changed in ways that still surprise me.
I went to the soup kitchen that evening. (I didn’t have to cook, thank you God~ and the guests there thank Him too!!) My job for the night was to love on the people as they arrived, serve the food, and help with cleanup. I felt a little hesitant about the “love on the people” thing…although I SO love people, remember the OCD thing I have about dirt? But I pulled myself up by the bootstraps and gave it 1000%. And guess what? I was in HEAVEN. Yes, HEAVEN. The guests there were not much different than you or I in many ways. They all had a story about why they were at this place in life as do you and I. They had families and all that comes with that, just like us. They had dreams that weren’t met and goals that were. What they didn’t have that you and I do is a safe and warm place to eat every night. And that is why they were there…and that is why I was there. How simple really…to provide a lovely meal in a clean and warm place and love on them and feed them without judgment. What better blessing is there than that?
Six years later, I still volunteer at the soup kitchen several evenings a month. And guess what dear Bombshell? I love it as much as I ever did. We have “regulars” that we know by name and it is very cool to see them and hug them and love them…and yes, some are dirty. And some have made choices that got them there. But they are ALL human beings worthy of love and a hot meal. As my gratitude has grown, my love for those less fortunate has also grown. Several of my best girlfriends have also joined the fun and it is one of the highlights of our time together! Like I always say to people that ask about volunteering there, it really is way too much fun, so plan on that!
Back to YOU Bombshell. Where can you step up your “YES!!” ? Where are you not fully showing up in the world? Are you ready to change that today?
Some suggestions for you to take your Bombshell fabulosity up a notch:
1. Give away the fabulous clothes you no longer wear. Read my earlier posts about how to do that!
2. Serve at your local women’s shelter, soup kitchen, dog pound, or someplace that will make your heart sing every time you think about it. YOU are needed there!!
3. If time is a critical factor and you’ve told yourself you don’t have any, then give money. Everyone has different ways of serving so pick the one that is right for you. About this one~the girls (and guys) that serve with me are some of the busiest people I know and choose not to make the lack of time an excuse. Food for thought Bombshell!

So, how are you going to bless the world with your fabulosity? I can’t wait to hear!!
XOXO Gigi Belmonico

Hello you fabulous Bombshell!!
I am SO excited about so many things right now I can hardly keep them from you…but for now I must. As soon as I get the details locked down, I will make my big announcement!
Have you worked on becoming more irresistible? How is that going?
Today we are going to cover some Image tips that will help you, starting TODAY, on your path to Bombshell!!
So many times in our hurry to get dressed and out the door we throw something on and forget about it, missing the treasures right in our own closet. One of the most important things I learned in my early years as an Image Consultant was to plan your outfit ahead of time. (I call them costumes~and when you think about it they really ARE costumes aren’t they?) So from now on, plan your complete look the night before, or do what I do and take some time on Sunday night to plan for the entire week. Of course there are times when something spontaneous comes up and you may to have to make some changes, but for the most part you are READY…and that makes for a very happy Bombshell!!
Now that you know about planning ahead, let’s talk about those fabulous things in your closet just waiting to be worn. Maybe you bought a gorgeous dress and never wore it or perhaps wore it several times but just didn’t feel like it had the oomph you wanted it to. Well my dear, I can help you fix that! It’s called tailoring. Tailoring you say? Yes. There is not a man wearing a suit anywhere that didn’t have something done to make his suit fit him, and yet women don’t realize the importance of tailoring. I encourage you to find a great tailor in your area…your favorite store or dry cleaners will usually have a good recommendation! A tip I give my Bombshells is to have knee length skirts “pegged”…meaning it goes out where you go out and in where you go in! An inexpensive skirt that is tailored looks more Bombshell than wearing a very expensive UNtailored skirt! Trust me on this…wearing clothes that have been made to fit YOUR body makes all the difference in the world. Which brings me to my final tip for today…
Don’t shop for a Saturday wedding on Thursday. Don’t do it girlfriend. What happens when we are under stress is that we tend to pay way more than we planned and buy something that is not absolutely perfect. And if you are buying something fabulous it will need to be tailored, and “emergency tailoring” is very very pricey! Why not make a plan to shop sales NOW for a perfect outfit for weddings? Instead of stressing out about buying something last minute, you’ll look great and have a way better time!

A quick review:
1. Plan clothing, accessories, and shoes in advance!
2. Tailor your garments to fit YOU.
3. Shop NOW for future events rather than waiting last minute.
I can’t wait to hear from you Bombshell!!
XOXO
Gigi Belmonico

Hello Bombshells! We are SO happy you are here! Thank you for joining us!!
Being a Bombshell is all about showing up in the world as your most magnificent self. So many women struggle to figure out what that means and we are here to help! It’s all about YOU here girlfriend!! It is way more fun to live (and give) from an overflowing bucket of Bombshell fabulosity! So prop your feet up, relax, and let’s talk about being irresistible.
So my theme for the month is “Your Irresistibility Factor™”. I love that don’t you? Part of being a Bombshell is having that je ne sais quoi (French for “that certain something”) that you can’t quite put your finger on…and part of that is feeling and being irresistible. It may mean one thing to one person and an entirely different thing to another. Is part of being irresistible possessing extreme beauty? Or perhaps perfect measurements? I had an idea to send out a quick twitter DM to see what other people thought was irresistible. What fun! I sent out a quick questionnaire to 23 people and 19 quickly responded~ and my findings were very interesting! Out of ALL the responses, beauty or perfection was NOT the top factor in what this random group of 11 guys and 8 Bombshells found irresistible.
Hold on to your gorgeous handbag my darlings…what this random group found to be the number one quality of being irresistible was CONFIDENCE. Yes, confidence. Not extreme beauty, or a perfect bod. It is feeling good about who you are enough to be present in your skin. Bombshell, that’s YOU!! Uh-oh. You aren’t feeling it? We gotta talk girlfriend. Right now. Just breathe.
So that confidence thing is not something you are feeling today? Well I have good news and I have good news about that! Confidence is not about a feeling. What?? Not a feeling?? Of course it is. Well my dear, we aren’t talking about the “I feel confident because I feel skinny today” kind of confidence here. We are talking about something much deeper and more meaningful.
I am talking about the “I LOVE ME” confidence that comes from within. The confidence that gives you the courage to call a girlfriend that recently got a scary diagnosis from the doctor even though you don’t know what to say. The confidence that comes from being authentic with your girlfriends about how everything is not so perfect but it is going to be okay because in time it always is okay. The confidence that no matter what comes your way, your inner joy is not affected. Isn’t that the confidence we all want? It is a much more powerful confidence than the passing confidence of feeling good on a skinny day (or at least an “I don’t feel too fat” day). That kind of confidence is fun and it makes you all the more Bombshell, but if all the confidence you have is about how you look and how you feel about how you look, you are missing out on a key component of Bombshell fabulosity!
So your assignment, if you dare to accept, is this:
1. Breathe. Deeply in, and deeply out.
2. Say thank you. Lots of times, every day. Out loud, to God, to yourself, everywhere you go. Be in a continuous state of gratitude at all times. Even when something happens that is dreadful or scary or maddening….just out loud with your hand on your heart say “thank you”. Try it~you will see for yourself that being in that state brings peace and a comforting confidence that you will make it.
3. Practice extraordinary compassion. Especially with yourself. You, and I , and everyone else on the planet is doing the best they can with what they know TODAY. No more putting yourself or other women down. Nope. Not even then.
Bombshell, there is nothing wrong with looking good and feeling good about looking good! Many lives are transformed when a woman changes her appearance and I love that part of my Bombshell program. BUT… do you want to be the Bombshell that walks around saying to everyone “I look good so look at me!” without the deeper inner confidence that brings meaningful connection, or do you want to be the Bombshell that has learned the outer tools about looking great and the inner confidence as well, and ALSO looks great, but instead says “You look great and I am SO happy you are here with me!!”
My next post will include some amazing Bombshell tips about how to exude confidence in your outer image. I can’t wait to hear your feedback!
XOXO
Gigi Belmonico
p.s. I would love to connect with you on twitter and Facebook! twitter.com/GigiBelmonico and please join our Bombshell posse at www.tinyurl.com/BombshellFB

Hello Bombshell!
Recently I was asked to be a guest blogger for Diana Dorell, an intuitive counselor, healer and fabulous Bombshell! Her focus was about beauty and femininity and I was honored to be featured in her May newsletter. Here is part of my post that I think you’ll find interesting!

I believe being a Bombshell is so much more than outer beauty. However…working on outer beauty is a pivotal place to start changing the mindset that many women have that you can’t have brains AND beauty.
In my work as a Bombshell coach, I find that women are THRILLED to have me call them Bombshell! Most women are hungry to be acknowledged for their inner AND outer beauty. In a rare instance, she might share that she used to be offended when someone wanted to compliment her on her looks and not her brains. Usually when a woman is offended by compliments of that nature, she has become uncomfortable with her femininity and feels like it takes away from her “power”. Quite the opposite is true! When a woman fully embraces her TRUE femininity, there is no more powerful force in the universe.
So how does she do that? How does one go from ignoring her femininity to embracing it and making it an even truer part of who she is?
1. DECIDE. Yes, decide to be a Bombshell. Make the choice that from this day forward, beauty will become a part of everyday life.
2. The mirror exercise: Every day of your life look closely in your mirror (close as in about 3-5 inches from your face looking deeply into your own eyes) and say “I am a BOMBSHELL.” And then smile from ear to ear! That tells your brain that you believe it to be true and the neurons that support that thought will work overtime to make it so.
3. Smell like Heaven. Find a signature fragrance that makes you feel wonderful every time you put it on. And put it on every day! On those days when you won’t be seeing anyone but yourself, still wear your signature fragrance. This is a great reminder of what a Bombshell you are!
4. Get fully dressed for YOU. That doesn’t mean you must wear a beaded gown to pick up groceries. It means that when you feel great about how you look, when you run into that old boyfriend it’s not baggy sweats and apologies for not taking care of YOU.
5. Flowers! Yes. A Bombshell loves having colorful beautiful flowers where she spends the most time. Doesn’t have to be costly…just beautiful!
More women than ever realize the power of their beauty. The time is now Bombshell! XOXO Gigi Belmonico
p.s. To find out more about Diana and her amazing gifts, please go to www.thedancinggoddess.com
Tell her Gigi sent you! XOXOGigi

Hello Bombshell!

Are you loving your life right now? I am!! There are so many exciting things happening I can hardly contain myself!

Today we are talking a bit more about tolerating and what I have been tolerating.

So for the last several years I have been gaining a little weight each year. Not 50 pounds, but enough that my clothes no longer fit me like I like them to fit. I managed to go up one size and it looked like I might be getting closer to going up two sizes. I had enough and I knew I had to do SOMETHING to get back into my Bombshell clothes! Perhaps you are thinking “What are you talking about! You weren’t that fat!” Well, no, maybe I wasn’t. But let me tell you a secret my dear Bombshell…pain is pain. So whether someone needs to lose 10 or 15 lbs. or 50 or 100lbs, pain is pain. Tight clothes are tight clothes. And my clothes were getting TIGHT.

As I started to research what might be happening to me to cause me to gain weight (other than age and perimenopause!) I came across something very interesting. I found some information about food sensitivities and that I might have some! I never had allergies, but I did have food cravings…like peanut M&M’s and Mexican food! Like EVERYDAY. I had sensitivities to food I was eating almost everyday and THAT was what was making me fat. Now I just had to figure out a way to release that proclivity to eat stuff that was making me fat and never look back.

So I started to research and figure out a way to get this handled once and for all.

I came across a homeopathic hcg diet.  Let me just say I have never been a dieting kind of girl.  Never.  But it was time for me to grow up and get this handled.  So I did.

In a nutshell, I lost 17 lbs in 23 days. Yes, 17. My goal was to lose 10, but the first two days of the diet you are to food load (sounds WAY more fun than it is!) I gained 4 lbs on the food load (I call it gorge!) so that brought me up to needing to lose 14 pounds. And I lost 17. That was right after Christmas and I didn’t gain one pound back. Not one.

The reason I am telling you this is this: SO many women, because of their weight, tolerate feeling that they can never be better than they are in this moment…that life somehow dealt them the chubby card…the slow metabolism card…the “I love my fat and you should too!” and the ever popular one amongst my crowd (the southern folks!) ”I don’t come from skinny people” card (which was my favorite card by the way!) We make up all kinds of excuses why we don’t show up fully in the world. And you know what Bombshell? My confession is that maybe I was not showing up fully in the world either…by hiding behind my excuses for putting on a little weight I could hold off launching my big vision…I wouldn’t dare appear on video and show you eye to eye how to become more Bombshell fabulous because there was NO WAY I was doing that! I could drag my dream along a bit more slowly so that people around me could feel better about who they are in the world. I could dim my light a bit so that everyone else would feel better about themselves and not get weird on me because my light was shining brighter than their expectations of themselves.

Well my dear Bombshells… that girl that was so afraid to shine her very brightest is gone. She has been replaced by a new and improved model. One that can eat when she wants to eat and not when she has a weird craving. I choose my clothes instead of my clothes choosing me. I feel amazing and it feels awesome to have everything in my Bombshell closet fit me like a dream! It’s very cool really…that I got this weight thing handled…because when you get the weight thing handled you realize it’s not the weight thing at all…it’s that we sometimes forget the magic words that we are born with and life tries really really hard to take away…

I LOVE ME.

XOXO Gigi Belmonico

p.s. Want to see my little video and know more about what I did to get here? http://www.thebombshellfactordiet.com